How to land a woman and keep her forever? It is both simple and complicated at the same time. You will see why …. Most importantly You need to make her feel like the most special thing in the world. Period.
Prime example: I had a teacher in highschool who was young, incredibly attractive, and brilliant. Not to mention he and his wife ran a tutoring agency as a side project #adorable. Mr.X’s wife was pretty, but not a smoke show. One day a jerk in my physics class was trying to ruffle his feathers and said to my teacher, “Mr. X, is your wife a hottie?” And without a second of thought Mr.X responded “my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world,” and he meant it.
If you want a happy relationship you need to make a woman feel like she’s the most beautiful person in the world. We all like to hang our hats on our intellect or our sense of humor, but let me tell you, we want to feel beautiful. And that doesn’t mean just physically beautiful, we aren’t that shallow. We understand that beauty is about being attractive, how we carry ourselves, style, confidence. My sister and I say, “every girl wants to be someone’s Megan Fox.” And that is what a relationship should aspire to be.
Some of you are saying wow that’s really superficial, but hear me out. Beauty is about more than just looks. Megan Fox is beautiful, but she is also sexy, she has this swag, this aura of strength and independence. When you tell a woman she is beautiful, we associate that quality with all of these other positive attributes. And take a lesson from Robin Thicke’s book, you will miss her when she’s gone. Cause for every ten girls who are pretty in that fake hair, faux tan kindof way is just ONE with the mind and self-awareness to back it up.
Now for the complicated twist. While I have been referring to a man as the significant other in the relationship, who I really am referring to is yourself. Much harder than finding beautiful things about others is being able to find them internally. You need to recognize these gorgeous qualities within and nurture them just as you would any outward relationship. You need to empower yourself with great confidence and style. Use your intelligence to build an understanding of who you are and who you want to be in a relationship with for the rest of your life. This is the bond that matters the most, the one we have with ourselves.
That said, right now I am not in a healthy, functioning relationship with myself, but I hope one day I will be. I hope that one day I will find “the most beautiful woman in the world” within me. As I have said before, the self-loathing isn’t going to change overnight. It is a learning process and takes lots of work. It’s an exhausting journey that will requires a immense psychological healing and spiritual searching. You need to change your environment, physically and mentally.
Everyday I am trying to find a way to make these life-changes because it’s been about seven years since I have had quality time to work on me. And when I finally do I think I will be alright. I think I can learn the essentials to a lasting, happy relationship with me, myself, and I.